10 wrong male signs

I can be very picky at times. I like to look at the details and I mean, every little one. From the small thumb print in the corner of my computer screen to the neatness of my desk. Everything must be in place, clean, and neat.

In a way, this has worked for me. This is how I've managed to find myself a keeper, the man of my dreams. I had to be picky, to look at every detail, and be certain he'd be worth that post in my life.

Here's a list of wrong male signs you should be aware:

1. He doesn't respect you.

2. He doesn't respect his family.

3. He hangs out with the wrong crowd.

4. He is a life complainer.

5. He is still hung up on his past.

6. He lies.

7. He is obsessed with violence, promiscuity, and attention.

8. He embarrasses you.

9. He is too sensitive.

10. He is lazy.

"There is NO Point!"

Very interesting and so true!

How to attract the right kind of guy

Get a new haircut, apply more make-up on, lose some weight, or dress more provocatively - it can be more attractive on the outside and men can even follow you around, but you won't have what it takes to attract the good ones, the keepers.

The man of your dreams is not hanging out with other men at the bar, dancing with all kinds of girls in the night clubs, or flirting with you while committed with somebody else. Women always fall for these kinds of men, the ones that are only out there to play, the ones that give the male race a bad reputation.

If you want to attract the right king of guy, first you have to be the right kind of girl. Real men admire women who are strong, secure, and intelligent. They look deeper, to what they have to say, to what they believe in, and to what they fight for. These women are respectful, discreet, and different from other women. Mr Right is usually a hard-working guy, so be a hard-working gal too.

Then look for him in the right places, where you'd find such a guy. Don't be naive, if he's cheating on his wife to be with you, he's a cheater and will cheat on you too. The right guy is faithful in all things, all circumstances, and all people. He hangs out in places that are admirable and with people that are just like him.

It's common sense.

Going Blank?

Sometimes you just don't have anything to say. You're thinking, asking, and meditating. You don't always have to have something to say. You don't always have to have something to teach. But you MUST always think, ask, and meditate. When you lack thinking, you make the wrong decisions. When you lack asking, you judge wrongly. When you lack meditating, you completely miss the point.

Think about your life. Ask what you don't understand or about what is bothering you. Meditate on what you can do about it. And do it.

Before my husband

I turned 16 with no boyfriend and no college plans. My school counselor kept booking appointments to see me, church friends kept trying to fix me up, and my grandma kept telling me about her other grandchildren who actually had a life... 'it's non sense to have only one boyfriend, how will you have fun, how will you know who is who if you don't have any choices?' She did make sense but... I had made up my mind.

I didn't only want to marry my first boyfriend though. I wanted to marry my first boyfriend who also happened to be a pastor. And with that, my chances got slimmer.  There were no single pastors in my church at the time. 

When my parents decided to move back to Brazil and asked me if I wanted to stay in New York and finish high school, I said 'no way!' I saw an opportunity for me to find Mr Right with that move. Brazil had many more single pastors in the church, about 100 of them just in São Paulo. I remember thinking while I was still inside the plane 'this is it, this is my chance to find the one I've been waiting for.'

More next Sunday.